Becoming humble

Being Humble

No Pride No Shame

No pride no shame

Jingle Bells (Christmas carol)

Dashing through the snow
In a one horse open sleigh
O'er the fields we go
Laughing all the way
Bells on bob tails ring
Making spirits bright
What fun it is to laugh and sing
A sleighing song tonight

Oh, jingle bells, jingle bells
Jingle all the way
Oh, what fun it is to ride
In a one horse open sleigh
Jingle bells, jingle bells
Jingle all the way
Oh, what fun it is to ride
In a one horse open sleigh

A day or two ago
I thought I'd take a ride
And soon Miss Fanny Bright
Was seated by my side
The horse was lean and lank
Misfortune seemed his lot
We got into a drifted bank
And then we got upsot

Oh, jingle bells, jingle bells
Jingle all the way
Oh, what fun it is to ride
In a one horse open sleigh
Jingle bells, jingle bells
Jingle all the way
Oh, what fun it is to ride
In a one horse open sleigh yeah

Jingle bells, jingle bells
Jingle all the way
Oh, what fun it is to ride
In a one horse open sleigh
Jingle bells, jingle bells
Jingle all the way
Oh, what fun it is to ride
In a one horse open sleigh

Punishment in Kindergarten - Kamala Das

Today the world is a little more my own
No need to remember the pain
A blue-frocked woman caused, throwing
Words at me like pots and pans, to drain
That honey coloured day of peace.
“Why don’t you join the others, what
A peculiar child you are!”
On the lawn , in clusters, sat my school mates sipping
Sugarcane, they turned and laughed;
Children are funny things, they laugh
In mirth at other’s tears, I buried
My face in the sun-warmed hedge
And smelt the flowers and the pain.
The words are muffled now, the laughing
Faces only blur. The years have
Sped along, stopping briefly
At beloved halts and moving
Sadly on.My mind has found
An adult peace. No need to remember
That picnic day when I lay hidden
By a hedge, watching the steel-white sun
Standing lonely in the sky.

Thupathittu - Nutritional Snack

Thupathittu is the most popular badaga dish done on several occasions. It is had as a snack. I means 'dish made from ghee'.
Sugar – 200 g
Maida Flour – 500 g
Baking Soda – 1/4 tsp
Water (as required)
Oil to fry
  • Mix all  the above ingredients and beat it into a fine jelly-like paste.
  • Keep it covered for half an hour for the paste to set.
  • Heat oil in a pan.
  • Take a flat bottomed utensil (approximately 4″). Turn it upside down and cover the vessel’s bottom with a clean wet cloth.
  • On it,spread the jelly like paste in small quantities.
  • Tilt the cloth slightly to transfer the jelly spread to your hand then to the heated oil carefully.
  • Keep turning the sides. When both the sides become light golden brown, remove them from the oil.
  • Serve hot with coffee or tea

Gulla Paniyara

Maida Flour – 500 Gm
Sugar – 200 Gm
Salt to taste
Baking Soda – A pinch
Coconut – Cut into small pieces
Dried fruits – 50 gm
Water as required
  • Mix all the above ingredients into a batter
  • Paniyaram is done is a separate pan called the Paniyaram Pan. In the pan pour oil.
  • When the oil is heated, pour the batter into the provisions given in the pan.
  • When one side becomes, light brown, turn it to the other side using a thin stick.
  • Remove from oil when both the sides have become golden brown.
  • Serve hot

The Guy Friend

If you had male friends, you sure would have experienced what I'm about to say. I'm recording my first-hand experience since I have a large circle of male friends some of whom have been with me for close to eight years. There will be many who would agree with me and many who might question my logic, but what I'm writing is what the majority of girls must have felt at some point of time or the other. And just to simplify things, I'm talking about women in their twenties. This article is to say thanks for all such special people in my life.If you had a male friend....

1. Your relationship would always be speculated if both of you are single. People would conclude that you are together and even if they know you are not, they would always advise you to go ahead and marry each other.

2. There will always be girls who would be vying for your friend's attention especially if he is handsome or popular.

3. There will be some girls who are jealous of your relationship with a male friend. There still would be some girls who would respect  your friendship.

4. Some people would never understand what is going on between you two and would always try to interpret or interfere. It will irk them more when your friend ignores them as for him, you will always be his first priority.

5. You will feel special and always secure as your friend stays close by you all the time.

6. Your friend will be teased as your body guard. In a sense this is true as he looks out for you every step of the way.

7.The mood of your friend will mostly be attributed to you. If he is happy or sad or angry people always think it is because of you.

8. Some girls will long for your easy and uncomplicated relationship with your friend. 

9. Even if nothing happens, you are always the center of attention as the couple who are very close.

10. Having a male friend is like having a father, brother and friend all rolled into one. You can count on him for anything and everything as you know he would never let you down. 

Kajai - Nutritional Snack

White Raw Rice – 500 gm
Sugar – 250 gm
Water – 2 cups
Flax seeds – 50 gm
Cardamom – fine powder
  • Soak the white raw rice for half an hour. Then dry and it and grind it into fine powder and keep it aside.
  • Heat the water in a flat pan. Add the sugar to it and keep stirring till it becomes syrupy.
  • Switch off the flame. Mix the ground powder to the syrup slowly and stir well.
  • Add the flax seeds and cardamom powder and mix well. The mixture should be loose and soft.
  • Keep it aside for setting. It has to soak for atleast 6 hours.
  • Heat oil in a pan.
  • When the oil is ready, take a little set mixture and press it between your hands. Make a little hole in the middle and drop it into the oil. ( It should resemble a doughnut.)
  • Fry both sides till they become golden brown.
  • Remove from oil and serve hot.

Kadimittu - Nutritional Snack

Sooji – 500 gm
Sugar- 250 gm
Coconut (grated) – 2 cups
Ghee – 100 gm
Water as required
Salt as required
  • Fry the sooji in ghee till it becomes golden brown.
  • Fry the grated coconut in oil and keep it aside.
  • Mix the sooji and coconut with the other ingredients above to make a paste.
  • Mould the paste into small balls.
  • Cook them in steam using the normal idly cooker for twenty minutes.
  • Remove after 20 minutes and serve hot.

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Tears & Smiles

World's Largest Family

                                                                      Image courtesy : Reuters & Asia One

There have been some strange incidents in the world, but this particular thing is bewildering as well as impossible. Yet one man has achieved it and has made the world notice India, more particularly Mizoram by marrying 39 women and having 94 children and 33 grand children. He is known as Ziona, belonging to the sect called Chana which was founded by his father in 1942. His sect obviously allows polygamy which means he can continue to marry till he dies. The number does not matter. Till now there are 181 members in his family. His latest wife is old enough to be just his daughter. His oldest son is close to 50.

Here are some of the interesting facts about the world's largest living joint family.

1.The family raises its own crops and its own livestock. They are self-reliant.

2. The family consumes 100 Kg of rice, 60 Kg of potatoes, 70 Kg of meat and 10 litres of milk per day.

3. Ziona has built a school for the children of his community.

4. the entire family has love and respect for each other and the wives, it seems are not jealous.

5. They live in a four storied mansion with a 100 rooms. It is called Chhuanthar Run

6. Each day at 5.30 in the morning, all the members of the family gather for prayers and by six work is delegated to the elders in the family.

7. The wives take turns to cook, clean,wash and look after the children.

8. Dinner is the most important meal of the day and is taken by 6 PM. By 9 PM the day ends and the lights are turned off.

AaluKu - The Milk Rice

Aaluku literally means rice with milk. It is a healthy food rich in calcium.
Rice – 500 g
Milk – 200 g
Sugar -100 g
Salt to taste
Coconut (grated or cut into small pieces) – 1 cup
Cashew – 100 g
  • Cook rice with excess of water
  • After the rice is cooked, mash the rice into a fine paste using a masher
  • Add warm milk,salt and sugar to the rice and stir well till it is evenly mixed
  • Add coconut and stir
  • Garnish with cashew and serve


Bennaku literally means butter rice. It was tradition for the badugas to specially offer bennaku to their guests without fail. It is seen as a symbol of sharing.
Butter -200 gm
White Sooji (Rava) – 1 tumbler
  • Heat the butter in a pan.
  • Add the sooji and cook for ten minutes on medium flame.
  • When the butter begins to form ghee (you can identify from the smell), turn off the stove.
  • Serve hot
Additional Tip:
Do not fry the sooji before cooking.

Pothitu with Coconut Milk

Pothitu is a breakfast dish. It is best consumed with coconut milk.
Wheat Flour-5oo g
Grated coconut – 1 cup
Sugar – 100 g
Water – 2 cups
Salt to taste
  • Grind the grated coconut thoroughly with water.Filter the liquid and grind again till the coconut milk is extracted.
  • Add sugar to it and set it aside.
  • To make the Pothitu batter, add the wheat flour with water and salt and beat it into a batter.
  • Spread it like pancakes and cook on medium flame.
  • Have it with coconut milk.
Additional Tip:
1.Instead of wheat flour, maida can also be used.
2.For those who do not like sweet taste, it can be consumed with coconut chutney


Ubittu is a snack best served with tea. It is easy to prepare and is done on many Baduga festivals.


For the batter:

Maida Flour – 500 g
Sugar-250 g
Salt to taste
Oil to fry

For the Stuffing:

Roasted Gram – 250 g
Grated Coconut – 1 cup
Sugar – 100 grams


  • Mix the Maida flour, salt and sugar along with a little water to make the batter and keep it aside.(similar to Dosa Batter)
  • Grind roasted gram to a coarse powder.
  • Mix it with grated coconut and sugar.
  • Add a little water to the mixture and make it into small balls.
  • Keep oil in a pan to heat.
  • When the oil is ready, dip these balls into the batter and fry till they become golden brown.

Ubittu is ready!

Best Combination:

Serve with Coffee or Tea.

Alternate Tip:

Instead of roasted gram, Bengal gram can also be used. In that case, Bengal gram has to be cooked previously before grinding it into coarse powder.

Albert Einstein - The absent minded genius

Today is the birthday of the great physicist Albert Einstein. This day is also observed as the 'pi day' because of the date 14 march.( pi=22/7 or 3.14). Here are some special facts about the sensational scientist.

1. Albert Einstein was born a fat baby with a bigger-than-normal head. His parents thought he was a deformed baby. But this condition corrected itself as he grew up.

2. Einstein could not talk till the age of four. He uttered his first sentence (This soup is too hot) at the age of nine.

3.He could not pass his university entrance exam as he has flunked in all the subjects expect maths and science.

4. His interest in science was sparked by the compass which was given to him when he was sick once.

5. He was twice married. He was one among the very few men who married their first cousins.

6. He had a very bad memory. He could not remember dates and phone numbers.

7. Einstein was a violin player. He was inspired by the music of Mozart. His mother was a piano player.

8. He was even offered the presidency of Israel but he politely declined.

9. Einstein won the nobel prize for photoelectric effect while he is better known as the man who designed the theory of relativity.

10. He never like haircuts or socks. Hence the unkempt look of the Einstein we know!

11. He loved to sail though he never knew swimming.

12. He liked to work in complete silence.For all his brilliance he never learnt to drive a car. He either rode a bicycle or walked to work.

13. Einstein's sense of humor was well known.

14. He died of a ruptured blood vessel. While surgery was mentioned, he simply said there was no joy in prolonging life by artificial means.

15. His brain was preserved in a jar for 43 years after his death. It was examined by world's leading brain specialists.

Mari Habba - The crux of badugas

I'm just back after a week's vacation at my native place. The purpose of my visit??? To enjoy the yearly sacred ritual called marihabba (Mariamma- Godess Parvathi, Habba - festival). Each hatty (village) celebrates this function in a unique way, the basic concept being celebrating oneness and invoking the blessing of the Almighty. This article records some of the most amazing moments of the occasion.

The family get-together:

Our extended family is very huge. I know even the aunts, uncles and cousins of my parents from both sides. So such occasions are a chance for me to get acquainted with them better as the opportunities where we interact are generally minimum. My cousins work all over India and abroad and we rarely meet face to face. Thanks to technology we have managed to stay close, but meeting in person has absolutely no replacement. So this occasion is a big chance for all of us to come together and catch upon long lost conversations.

The ceremony:

In my native place, the goddess Mariamma is adorned with flowers and sacred puja items and is amazingly beautiful. Her holy chariot is decorated in an equally grand manner. The entire village voluntarily participates in the preparations. The positive energy is palpable as towards midnight,  the Goddess arrives on her chariot to the village's main street. The entire village offers prayers and garlands and falls at her feet for her blessings of a happy and prosperous village. It is believed that throwing salt at the chariot is a good omen. Hymns are sung and traditional dances are performed in front of the chariot. Men with huge burning torches line on either side of the crowd at roughly equal distances to provide light for the gathered crowd and also to keep the crowd warm. The entire process takes place close to midnight and imagine in a place like Ooty where the climate is near freezing at midnight, people still celebrate this occasion with great pomp and splendor.

The next day morning, the sacred Karagam is brought to the individual house and people pay their respects to the same. The elderly who could not attend the ceremony the previous day make the best use of the next day. The Karagam goes to each house personally and by the time it reaches the temple again, it is close to evening. Women especially young girls go along with the Karagam for the finishing ceremony and pour water in the holy lake situated close to the temple. After special prayers and pujas, the Karagam is floated in the holy water thus concluding the function. All this time, the temple is crowded by devotees, hymns men and holy men.

The baduga dance:

This is an integral part of the festival. Youngsters and elders all shake a leg to the traditional drum beat of the badugas. The teenagers are the most excited lot willing to show off their traditional dance with a new twist. It is such a miracle that even a baduga baby can dance to the beat and tune without anybody teaching him or her.

The dress code:

All the women wear white mundu over their saris and all the men are expected to wear crisp white shirts and dhotis. It is a sight to behold as the entire village turns into a sea of white.

The food bonanza:

A variety of delicacies are prepared through out the two days, the main item being thuppathitu (something like puri but sweet and yummy). At the end of the second day a huge non-vegetarian feast is prepared and consumed by the entire village. This definitely includes chicken but may or may not include mutton and fish. The badugas are very fond of chicken. Relatives far and near visit the family. And the food is prepared with such gusto and savored with such relish.

The farewell:

This occasion is very important for badugas as this festival is meant especially for their beloved daughters. This is a chance for the parents to see and honor their daughters who are married and are located elsewhere. When the daughter enjoys the festivity and leaves for her in-laws home which is now hers too, the parents send her back with all the home made goodies, a new sari and some money. It is a tradition that has been handed down for many generations.

This habba is an unspoken testimony for the bonds that run deep within the badugas. Strangers and relatives are treated alike with respect and love. Nothing can beat the baduga hospitality.(Some years back even the UNESCO acknowledged that the badugas were the best people known for their hospitality.) Being a daughter born into a huge family, this festival is very close to my heart. As I see my parents that day every year awaiting my arrival along with my family, I know what it is to be special. May the great Mariamma bless all of us for a clear mind and a open heart and many more such happy occasions.

Wedding Vows of a Girl

1. In order to gain a new family , I will not lose my own family.

2. My father's name might be replaced by another man's name, but my father's place will never ever be replaced.

3. I will bring two families together and treat them as one.

4. I expect you dear husband to be my wings instead of being my cage.

5. I'm meant for doing great things, even after I leave for a new home.

6. I will not change the goodness or the courage in me.

7. I will treat your family with love and justice as long as you show me the same.

8. I might compromise on subtle things, but I will never compromise on my dignity and character.

9. I will learn to love you and your family unconditionally.

10. I will play my role with an open heart, with less judgment and more love. All you have to do is facilitate that arrangement.


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